My dream trails to the wonderland

Posted: August 1, 2016 in Writing

I am blogging about my dreams and passions for the Club Mahindra #DreamTrails activity at BlogAdda. You can get a Club Mahindra Membership to own your holidays!

Who doesn’t love travelling? I guess everyone does, but there are people like me, who literally dream of places to visit. Well I have a long list of places to visit, only if I had enough money, I would definitely not be a person staying at one place for long. Some people have a passion for travel, to experience the cultural history attached to those places, while some just travel to enjoy the nature and the wildlife, others travel to experience the vast cuisines and delicacies which best describe the place.

For me it has always been nature. History is something which I have always been away from since childhood; However, I do like to explore the exotic cuisine which the place offers. But nature is something which I usually keep in mind while planning my travel.

Nature, they say, keeps you closer to your heart and soul. . That is why whenever we find time; we prefer a getaway to places close to the nature. To hear the birds chirping, and listening to the soothing music coming from the cool breeze and the sound of the Ocean humming from far behind. And it feels to take asylum here forever, away from the hush bush traffic of the city and the pollution which is the main cause of most of the diseases.

Have you ever seen a wonderland, like really, those mentioned in the fairytale? Well! I love to visit some if there are any, like the castles shown in the books. Nevertheless the secret to a happy and long life lies in the happiness you seek and I seek happiness around nature. Coming to my dream trails, well! The list is endless, but there are some which if I get a chance to visit, will be the first in the wish list:

  1. The Aurora Borealis: The northern lights or aurora Borealis has always been in my mind ever since I came to know about it, which, to be frank, is not long back. And I have always googled about when is the best time to visit places where I can experience this beauty first hand. Camping under the sky, watching the stars and then Boom! An Aurora borealis occurs. Wow! That would be a sight to view ones in a lifetime.

  1. Salar De Uyuni: As it is called the world’s largest mirrors in the world. I just happen to read about this a couple of days back in the internet (As I told you, I keep searching for places which are close to nature), and I instantly added it in my wish list. Located in southwest Bolivia, covered with salt crust and with an amazing flatness, clear skies, and when covered with water, it makes the largest mirrors in the world. It looks like a dream world, or as if you are in a real world heaven. Watching the night sky would definitely be a sight to experience.

  1. Dudhsagar falls: located in the border of the Indian states Karnataka and Goa, this sure is a place I would love to visit. Travelling by train you can actually see the falls and you can stop at the nearest station and walk for some time to reach to this place, but it’s worth every step that you walk. The sound of the waterfall in the midst of the forest, is so soothing.

 

 

As I said, the list is endless and I just can’t pen down all of them. But all I dream is to sleep under the sky, watch the night sky, and explore every bit of the nature during the day and capture the moment in the camera. I wish I could make my dream come true some day. the World is vast and so is the beauty attached to it, and I wish I could explore every bit of it and stay happy forever.

The growth matters

Posted: July 6, 2016 in Writing

In today’s day and age, where there is prodigious competition among children across all age group, there is an altogether different concern for the parents and that is the growth of the children. Part of which is due to the constant comparison of kids among the co-parents. But as the doctors also say, all kids act and behave different and so does their growth chart. However, it does concern the parents if the kids lag behind in height and weight. And so they try to do everything possible to catch up with other kids. I recently almost had a panic attack myself.

My daughter is almost 2 yrs old, and her food tantrums have started already. Being a pure vegetarian, I constantly have to think about giving her the necessary proteins, which she refuses to take. And finally, I literally have to give up on her because I can’t force anything on her, even if it is milk.

Ever since, I started giving her semi solids, I have never ever focused on forcing foods on her, tried different things, failed on some, she liked some initially, and then I would try something different. So it has been a roller coaster ride, always on the run to keep her healthy and feed something tasty. And she was never a fussy eater until recently though.  But again, the concern has always been there that am I giving her the right food and right quantity. But all the while, I am concerned about one thing, that she doesn’t eat daal and vegetables at all, which provides her the necessary proteins. So you would ask me what she eats. Well! That’s the issue and so I try to add the veggies in the form of stuffed paratha or pulao or khichdi.

Few days ago, she had high fever and after she recovered from that which lasted for almost a week, she lost weight and she stopped eating and drinking anything, and that’s when I started panicking. Milk was something she loved and she refused to even drink milk and she would cry with the mention of food. I was really really worried. Having said that, she was active and playing and would not demand food too which kind of surprised me. SO I tried to add some flavor in milk so that she would at least drink her regular portion of milk. And when I asked the doctor, she said as long as she is active, nothing to worry.

But I just can’t give up, she has to get some proteins and vitamins  in some form and So after consulting some co-parents and researching a lot , I decided to add Horlicks in the milk and try, initially she refused that too, but later as she got the taste, she started having it. And now she would demand for milk, which I happily oblige to give. However, her food tantrums are still the same, but I guess it’s the growth spurt and eventfully she will give in. And as long as she is having milk added with Horlicks, my major concern is on rest.

But the growth spree is ongoing and it won’t stop till the end. My mom is concerned even now about my health and would panic if I don’t eat properly, Can’t blame her though, as I am having a firsthand experience myself.

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In today’s day and age, situations have changed and a couple works together understanding their needs and supporting each other in good times or bad. Gone are the days when men just used to sit on the couch doing nothing and women had to struggle their butt out meeting everyone’s expectations, cooking, doing the laundry, cleaning the house etc. Or has it? Well! this one incident opened my eyes on how backward we are still when it comes to the mentality of some people.

Nina is one of my close friends. She is married for 6 yrs now and has a small kid. They struggled a lot financially and personally to have a kid, and after 6 yrs of marriage, they were blessed with a baby girl. And because they spent a lot on this conception, pregnancy and baby, Nina decided to support her husband financially. So she applied for a job and got an offer instantly. Taking care of the baby was a problem, so she called upon her in-laws, who were eager to come and ready to take care of their granddaughter, More so because of the income coming from their daughter in law, they accepted to take care of their granddaughter.

Now this is a typical saas bahu wala ghar. Every day Nina had to wake up early, and then prepare breakfast and lunch for everyone, feed the baby, clean the house, and then leave for office, hardly getting time to have her breakfast. And then once back home, she again had to prepare dinner, feed the baby, wait for everyone to finish their dinner and then she would eat. During the weekends, while everyone relaxed, she would have double work of doing the laundry whole day, other work. So basically, she would not get a single helping hand from anyone. Her husband used to feel bad and tried helping her on occasions, but her mom in law would never allow him and would say men shouldn’t do household chores.

And one fine day, I went to visit her, she looked weak and tired, I asked her and she told me she was too tired doing all the work alone without any help. I really felt bad for her. Her mother in law called up for her, and she just ran to her, I thought this is it, I can’t take it anymore, she is like my sister and I can’t see her suffering, and so I confronted her mother in law in front of everyone. “In one hand you want your daughter in law to help your son financially by working herself and on the other hand, you can’t see your son help her, what kind of hypocrisy is this? With people having your kind of mentality, our society is so backward and you don’t deserve an iota of respect.” She just didn’t say a word, but Nina’s husband also tried to explain his mother to help her and let him do so too and share the load.

Post this incident, I swore to myself that come what may, I will never let my kids imbibe this kind of culture in their life and we have to teach the kids to help in small chores right from the beginning whether boy or girl. So, this is a call to everyone, come pass the values of sharing the load to the next generation as I did.

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I am taking part in the #ShareTheLoad Challenge with Ariel and Aksharaat BlogAdda.

Change is good

Posted: May 8, 2016 in Writing

“I’m writing about my wonderful journey of pregnancy for the #YummyMummy blogging activity at BlogAdda in association with Marico Bio Oil.”

The Mother’s Day reminds me of my journey to motherhood. Every single day was a wonderful journey leading towards an even wonderful experience. It feels just yesterday that my little angle came into our life, but time flies and it’s been almost 2 years but life has been exciting since.

Pregnancy brings in many changes in a woman emotionally as well as physically. It’s a beautiful metamorphosis for a woman, a change which reminds her of her journey of motherhood. However, it also comes with an ugly side, which is the physical changes but that is what motherhood is all about, to shed the inhibitions and enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and post pregnancy.

Going back to the memory lane, I Reminisce my beautiful journey towards motherhood 2 years back, and it brings a smile on my face. Ever since my pregnancy got confirmed, I was on Cloudnine, at the same time, I had my jitters because of my previous failed pregnancy. But that didn’t let me stop enjoying every moment. I ate whatever I wanted without any inhibitions. This is the time to get pampered from everyone. We made sure that the baby is born in the best of hospitals and under the care of the best doctors in Bangalore, I am sure all parents does that. Experiencing the kicks was bliss. I remember, my baby used to kick me hard when she would be hungry or during the nights when she would be super active and it was an awesome experience, when we used to talk to her or touch the tummy, she would kick back hard. OMG! I can’t believe I am laughing reminiscing about that.

The carvings were weird, but then as I said, this is the time to get pampered, so utilize it to the core. Going out shopping for the both of us, eating junkie, which, By the way was a strict no, but I had a cravings for only those. Now that’s why my baby is a junkie eater herself.

However, it’s not always flowers and petals, I did experience some hormonal changes which were like painful, but it didn’t stop me from enjoying my journey. I knew that my body is going through a big change, and the mark will be there forever, but Mothers don’t care, this is the time when beauty doesn’t matter, what matters is the health of the baby and the beautiful experience they go through, which even if you tell yourself or to people around for some hundred times, the people might get bored, but you will always feel special and the memory so fresh in your mind and you will relive the journey once again.

Nowadays, moms -to -be are aware of their body changes post pregnancy and so they take care of their fitness, which is also good for the baby too, but I just didn’t care, and I think sometimes caring less helps, it helps you enjoy your life to the core and not being conscious about the changes, because this change is going to lead us to a beautiful journey ahead, that is called motherhood. So! To experience it, you have to shed the inhibitions and accept the change, because CHANGE IS GOOD!

 

My love for fiction

Posted: April 6, 2016 in Writing

When it comes to books, I m quite choosy, I look for a catchy title, and a great storyline, thriller combined with love story, with some twists here and there and a happy ending indeed. Basically I love fictions. Well! To tell you the truth, I was a completely different person some years back, and I used to hate books so much so that I had a personal hatred towards other geeky friends of mine. Dont know where this came from, but that was the truth. I used to hate when my friends used to talk about books and authors and used those highly professional vocabulary which a normal person like me could never understand. I used to feel, they are showing off and so I started ignoring these kinds of friends. But the problem was in me and not them. I still don’t know the reason, why I was so indifferent, but later I changed and for good.

I still remember, my very first book was of Sydney Sheldon, “If tomorrow comes” and that’s when I became a Sydney Sheldon book reader. And this very book too, I happen to start reading accidently, and I realized, books aren’t so bad and they aren’t our enemies either. Rather they are our best friends and a best way to pass time. Not that I am a complete bibliophile. But I do love reading whenever I get time.

It was a long train journey from Bangalore to my home town Jabalpur. Almost 2 days trip and I had my Mp3 player loaded with all the songs, latest, old, English, Rock, rap etc. I bought 3 magazines and I thought it would last for the 2 day trip and without getting too bored I’ll reach Jabalpur. But I was wrong, I finished the  whole magazine in 2 hours and listening to songs continuously brought headache which was unbearable and only after having 2 cups of coffee, it subsided. Now I was left with no option at all. Talking to fellow passengers was a strict no, as instructed by one and all. But still I did struck a conversation, a brief one though. Just then, I saw one guy selling some books, and this book caught my eye, I thought I will give it a try, as I had to pass time anyhow. Looking at the title, I was curious what this is all about. And as I started reading it kept me engaged throughout the journey. The thrills, the romance, the twists, it kind of keeps the chord connected. And my journey ended smoothly. In fact it lasted till my return journey back to Bangalore. I was a bit slow reader back then…

Since then, I have read quite a lot of book and mind you all fiction. This is how my love for fiction started. And now when my friends talk about books and authors, it doesn’t seem Greek and Latin to me, like it was back then. And now I have a long way to go, lot of books to read and let everyone know that books are indeed your best friend.

The good old days

Posted: March 17, 2016 in Writing

Festivals bring back the old memories afresh. With holi just round the corner, it takes me back to the memory lane. I reminisce; holi those days was so much fun. Buying colors and pichkaris days before, helping mom on the sweets and savouries she used to prepare and the smell of Desi Ghee, filled the whole house, and the whole atmosphere would be merry and the revelry of the festival would be grand.

March was the time of final exams, and we would literally hope that either our exams should get over before holi or we should have enough days to prepare post holi, coz we can’t miss the celebration at any cost. Exams or no exams our excitement would be the same. And people would judge our holi by the number of days the colour remained on our skin, “Lagta hai bahut Holi kheli rang abhi tak Gaya nahi” and we would proudly smile back.

On the day, we would usually be up early which was very unlikely on other days, and we would wear our favourite old dress, keep our colors ready, a bucket full of water, fill our pichkaris with colour water, and keep the water balloons ready. And just wait for our friends. While my dad used to get ready to go to his friends’ house and later all the uncles and their family would come to play Holi with us. And when those aunties used to colour my mom, they were icky, and I used to cry saying, “meri mummy ko kuch mat lagao”. And once they are gone, I would hold my mom and cry and she would be as normal as earlier. I would think, I will take care of those aunties next year and colour their kids like hell… But all in all the whole day would be super busy and super fun, The whole day we would just gorge on sweets savouries and the sumptuous lunch my mom used to prepare. It would be so much fun. And then end of the day we would sit on the terrace, applying oil and trying to remove all the colors. But it would take days for the colour to evanesce completely.

A festival of colours as they rightly call it, it fills our life with colors, and with love. But now the meaning of Holi has changed completely, living in north India where it is celebrated to the fullest, I have settled to South, a place where there is no fun this day. Initially, it was a culture shock for me, for I hardly see people on the roads on this day, while back home, the whole road would be full of people dancing, colouring each other, having fun.

But I don’t want my daughter to see this part of the festival, I want her to know the true meaning and have the real fun which we used to have back then. I can’t bring the good old days back, but I sure can bring the old fun back, with a little change here and there. With water scarcity everywhere, just a dry holi too would be fun. The intent is to celebrate the festival of colour and love and let the coming generation know the true meaning of this festival and the fun of celebrating a festival with friends and family…

I’m pledging to #KhulKeKheloHoli this year by sharing my Holi memories atBlogAdda in association with Parachute Advanced.”

A promise never to break

Posted: March 3, 2016 in Writing

Have you ever imagined why these wedding vows or promises are there for? The truth is that these promises are made to keep the relationship going. To remind the couple that they are in a beautiful relationship, where there are sacrifices, love, bickering, happiness, sufferings and the list goes on. SO a relationship is not always a fairy tale, it has its share of happiness and troubles at the same time, and these are the times of testing the promises or vows made during the wedding.

When it comes to making promises, well! My husband would be the last person to come forward by his own and make a promise. And if he does, which is quite rare, he does keeps up to it, even though it might take ages. Well! The other day, I was just browsing the facebook, and saw my friends and relatives enjoying their valentine’s day in some exotic destination. I go to him and ask him, when are you taking me out, and he is like, “Not again”! So, I want him to understand that it’s not to make you spend thousands of bucks for a vacation. But it’s to spend some quality time with you, which, these days, has become next to impossible. So I decided, to jot down all the promises that I want my man to keep up to this women’s day.

So my dear husband, here goes the list:

  1. Promise to spend time: This has become next to impossible in our lives. Strolling whole day in office and then coming late, the first thing he does is, switch on the television and that’s it, that’s his world. I want him to promise me to at least come to me and ask, how was my day, what did I do, play with the baby, tell me about his day in office, just chat nonsense, talk about the past, have a hearty laugh together etc. these little things and conversations are the little happiness that we look for all the time. And when later when I am not around, these small talks will remind you of how much we missed in life.
  2. Promise to compliment me: When I get ready for you, I expect you to compliment me without me asking. Because my world revolves around you post marriage and it doesn’t matter if the whole world compliments me, my ears are desperate to hear your compliments. So promise me not to get irritated if I keep asking you again and again, how I look.
  3. Promise to share the problems: My husband is the person who doesn’t really share his problems with me as it will bother me. This is something I don’t like. He feels I am too immature to handle the problems or it might bother me, and so he doesn’t tell. This is a good gesture of love, but I am totally against it. So promise me to not bear the brunt of the problems alone but share with me, so together we can sort out the biggest of problems.

 

The list is endless, but in the end I just want to say that these promises are just to make the relationship stronger in the coming years and keep the spark of love and marriage alive. And this is mutual, as you promise to be by my side, I promise to be a pillar of strength in your life for now and forever. And these are the promises never to break.

“I’m blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women’s Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda in association with Set Wet.”